OMG..................My Mid-life Crisis....Unhappiest

[KIKUNGU]

I did reasonably well in my 30's, I got married, had my first child soon after, are you, mzabzab? Did my post graduate studies and my professional accreditation, am semi- professional though compared to you ,EMT, lol….. enjoyed my married life for a couple of years and had my second and last child, how many have you got ,FP?

Then I turned 40, how old are you, sakapal?…………………..shetani akaingia……Sio wa kuvuta Bangi,Karucee………….went to hell and back in my last two years of married life……......after the messiest proceedings I got divorced, it is not a laughing matter, Kongosho……...I lost everything I had but not hope, don't cry for me my sister Kaunga……Nilijikung'uta makalio na kufuta machozi,nikaanza upya,,I wish lara 1 angekuwepo kipindi hicho….. Am enjoying my job but am the busiest man alive,Smile…….. don't have time for romance, romance? Yes, King'asti………nakutana na watu wengi na wa aina tofauti, hata wewe Boflo……….neither drink nor smoke, Mmmh Karucee …..Am generally fitter and healthier because that is how I decided to live, will you, Badili Tabia? The Boss, are you?

Occasionally I do my clothing and snickers shopping,BAK, lol…….my shopping bag is full of tight jeans,t shirts and slim fit shirts for my casual outing, lol……..Mtambuzi hizi ni nguo za 40-something kweli? Mentor hebu nishauri……….career wise am still slowly pushing to get there, at the summit but not sure if at all I ever wil…........,is it because am 40-something, Rutashubanyuma please? I wish ningejikomba kwa Natalia akanipa ki-memo, mke ya mzungu hii,lol
Mara ya mwisho nimeenda Sikonge,kule kwa wakonongo,Ipole,wajomba wa kinyamwezi,St Paka Mweusi,ITEGAMATWI wakaniuliza kwa nini sijapata mke mwingine,nikawajibu nangoja watoto wangu wakue kwanza ndio nitafikiria,they are 13 and 12 years old,….sijui kama hili jibu lilikuwa sahihi……AshaDii, Babu DC,was I right?

By this age, innocence has been lost, but my sense of reality is mixed with a strong sense of hope…..am I honest with myself, guys? Sikonge, snowhite, gfsonwin. I still have 'can do' spirit and a healthy belief in my own abilities but I have yet to develop the cynicism and world-weariness that comes with my 40-something years,Horsepower,Sarikoki. My school and College days was the happiest,Nivea,Madame X, followed by golden decade of 23-34's,when music was music,BAK,cheer me up please,and AIDS was associated with certain tribes,Bishanga, but am still doubting my transition from 30's to 40's and when I hear about the stereotype of mid-life crisis, am just getting confused.Am i just affected by negative emotions so that good times brought whopping highs but bad times are bringing anxiety and introspection?


Wana JF hebu nijuzeni,mie, niko kwenye hii mid –life crisis or am just getting grumpy 40-something old man.Hebu wana JF changieni hizi ndio zile dalili au naogopa kivuli changu tu,lol.Tu-share jamani



Cc,Kaizer,Nyani Ngabu,watu8,Fighter

 

[Gaijin]

A 40-something year old man who writes LOL after every other sentence

I must be at least 70

 

[King’asti]

Unajitia wazimu tu. Mbona midlife crisis haiji kwangu? Growing up is mandatory, growing old is optional. You are as old as you think.

Just dont under-dress plz. It might be looking a bit odd on you.

Ngoja kwanza....what do my kind look like and behave like? Im just curious and maybe my mirror aint big enough lol

 

[KIKUNGU]

A 40-something year old man who writes LOL after every other sentence

I must be at least 70

Gajin,may be am one in a million,huwezi jua

 

[lara 1]

Mhhhhhhhhh! A fool at forty is a fool indeed! (With all due respect) But i believe you ain't a fool! Except the roller coatser of life has been too fast for you to catch up!

40's now days is the new 30's, Relaxxxx and enjoy ya self! (At least 1 last time before you wake up and realize you have hit 50's. 50's is the begging of the end)

So dont put too much meaning into tiny details like you are divorced! So what? Even Babusambeke was divorced! Me.ngi is divorced! Itakuwa wewe bwana?

But dont take too much time thinkin and figuring things out! Times goes too fast. JUST LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY GOD GIVES IT TO YOU! After all we only live once! If you live it well once is enough!

 

[KIKUNGU]

Unajitia wazimu tu. Mbona midlife crisis haiji kwangu? Growing up is mandatory, growing old is optional. You are as old as you think.

Just dont under-dress plz. It might be looking a bit odd on you.

Ngoja kwanza....what do my kind look like and behave like? Im just curious and maybe my mirror aint big enough lol

Under-dress?not really.A bit odd on me, may be yes,King'asti

 

[Smile]

am too old for this!

 

[KIKUNGU]

Mhhhhhhhhh! A fool at forty is a fool indeed! (With all due respect) But i believe you ain't a fool! Except the roller coatser of life has been too fast for you to catch up!

40's now days is the new 30's, Relaxxxx and enjoy ya self! (At least 1 last time before you wake up and realize you have hit 50's. 50's is the begging of the end)

So dont put too much meaning into tiny details like you are divorced! So what? Even Babusambeke was divorced! Me.ngi is divorced! Itakuwa wewe bwana?

But dont take too much time thinkin and figuring things out! Times goes too fast. JUST LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY GOD GIVES IT TO YOU! After all we only live once! If you live it well once is enough!

Inawezekana sio mjinga kama unavyofikiri,lara 1,na labda bado naweza nikayaishi maisha tena at 50's nikawa mmoja katika million,usikatae!,lol

 

[KIKUNGU]

am too old for this!

Mmmh may be you are right,Smile

 

[nikiwe]

Haha they never grow old lol

A 40-something year old man who writes LOL after every other sentence

I must be at least 70

 

[Kaunga]

Kaka yangu mimi sioni dalili kubwa za MLC; ninachoona ni dalili za self pity na naweza sema hujarecover bado kutoka ktk hiyo divorce.

 

[Mentor]

am too old for this!

Hahaha I guess that makes me 50years!!!

 

[destiny1]

Baada ya divorce watu wengi wanakawaida ya kuact so strange, you are not alone, wapo wengi, hata hivyo its only two years so bado unarecover, relax and live your life usijiangalie sana, kikubwa pia muombe sana mungu akuongoze.

 

[ayanda]

Kaka yangu mimi sioni dalili kubwa za MLC; ninachoona ni dalili za self pity na naweza sema hujarecover bado kutoka ktk hiyo divorce.

ha ha ha mi ndo maana huwa nasema KUINGIA KWENYE NDOA NA KUTOKA NI BORA USIINGIE KABISA.

Huyu jamaa bado ana suffer divorce-trauma hakuna kingine, kapoteza focus at 40 na hana stable family.

chezeya thamani ya mke weye! muache ndo uone kasheshe lake. Wengine huwnda maofisini huku wamevaa tai na kandambili, yote kuchanganyikiwa tu.

 

[ayanda]

Mhhhhhhhhh! A fool at forty is a fool indeed! (With all due respect) But i believe you ain't a fool! Except the roller coatser of life has been too fast for you to catch up!

40's now days is the new 30's, Relaxxxx and enjoy ya self! (At least 1 last time before you wake up and realize you have hit 50's. 50's is the begging of the end)

So dont put too much meaning into tiny details like you are divorced! So what? Even Babusambeke was divorced! Me.ngi is divorced! Itakuwa wewe bwana?

But dont take too much time thinkin and figuring things out! Times goes too fast. JUST LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY GOD GIVES IT TO YOU! After all we only live once! If you live it well once is enough!

Hapo kwenye RED, ndo unaamisha nini sasa?

unajuaje kama hao nao hawana stress za divorce? mpaka wanaishia kuoa wanawake waliolingana na watoto wao na kuishia kuzaa wajukuu maana watoto wakubwa wamedata(probably as one of the effects za divorce ya wazazi)

acha kujilinganisha na watu kwenye mambo ya ki-negative.

DIVORCE ISIKIE TU NI BALAAAAAAAAAAAA. Mbaya zaidi uwe umeitaka wewe mwenyewe. Mie bora mtu aniache lakini eti niende court kudai talaka? aka babu sitaki mie laana

 

[Smile]

Hahaha I guess that makes me 50years!!!

while ????????

 

[Smile]

A 40-something year old man who writes LOL after every other sentence

I must be at least 70

mamaa ubaya? upo divorced wewe?

 

[Kaizer]

KIKUNGU bana.......at 47 mi bado nipo zangu club and what have not...mwone mzee Momose, at his age tunapishana club...so kama alivyosema dada King'asti na Kaunga wewe huna MLC.....una ile kuchanganyikiwa kidogo shauri ya divorce baas

Jioni tutafutane tupige bia....manake Bunge limeshapitisha azimio kuhusu udini, na lwakatare kafutiwa mashtaka ya ugaiadi, JK kaahirisha ziara yake yupo around...so no reason for a crisis, see?

 

[KIKUNGU]

KIKUNGU bana.......at 47 mi bado nipo zangu club and what have not...mwone mzee Momose, at his age tunapishana club...so kama alivyosema dada King'asti na Kaunga wewe huna MLC.....una ile kuchanganyikiwa kidogo shauri ya divorce baas

Jioni tutafutane tupige bia....manake Bunge limeshapitisha azimio kuhusu udini, na lwakatare kafutiwa mashtaka ya ugaiadi, JK kaahirisha ziara yake yupo around...so no reason for a crisis, see?

Kaizer,nimetoa changamoto tu,mie sio wa kwanza na wala sitokuwa wa mwisho,kuna watu kwenye jamii tena wana ndoa lakini wanafanya vitu vya ajabu,sleeping around na watoto ambao waweza kuwa sawa na watoto wao,wanatembea na shemeji zao au ndugu zao kwa sababu tu wamekuwa in trusted kwao,wanafanya ufusika ambao huwezi amini kama upo hapa bongo.
Kwangu hizi ni kama symptoms tu za MLC na kitu kizuri zaidi siko kwenye denial stage ndio maana nikaleta thread hii.Sijapoteza focus ya maisha yangu kama wengine wanavyofikiria,nawasomesha watoto wangu kwenye best education system in the world,am working hard to get to the top for my career,am god fearing person and i got strong family iliyoni-support wakati nipo low of the lowest.

Naomba tushare tunayo yaona kwa wenzetu au sisi wenyewe tunayafanya lakini hatujui tu kuwa ni symptoms au full blown MLC.Niko mbali mkuu Kaizer lakini ningekutafuta leo tunywe japo safari water,my favourites,lol.Nitakutafuta nikirudi though,in few weeks time.

 

[Joeli]

daaah im speechless