Saikolojia: Narcissism

[Red Giant]

Narcissism ni tatizo la kisaikolojia kwenye kundi la personality disorders.neno narcissism limetokana na jina la kijana wa kigiriki Narcissus. Kijana huyu alitokea kujipenda kupita kiasi. alikuwa mda wote anashinda akijikubali jinsi alivyomzuri kwa kujiangalia ndani ya maji.

kwa hiyo watu wenye narcissistic personality disorders huwa ni watu wanajikubali sana kwa uwezo, mvuto na akili. pia hutaka watu wengine wawakubali mara zote. Hujiona mtu wa maana kuliko uhalisia na mara zote hutaka attention.

watu wenye hili tatizo huwa hawajali kabisa hisia wala mahitaji ya wengine (wabinafsi). huwa wanaamini wao ni watu special na hupenda kuhang out na watu wa hali ya juu. wakienda mgahawani watataka siti nzuri, kwenye movie watataka siti za mbele, anategemea kila anachotaka kifanyike na hupenda kutumia wengine kufikia marengo yake.

anapokutana na watu waliofanikiwa hujitia kujikweza na huwa na wivu kwao. Pia huwa na wivu kwa waliofanikiwa na huwaonea wivu. pia mda wote huhisi wengine wanamuonea wivu.

hukasirika na hawavumilii wanapokosolewa. huwadharau wengine katika njia ya kuonyesha umuhimu na kujikweza. hupenda wao tu ndiyo waongee na huonyesha dharau wengine wakiwa wanajiongelea.huwa ni watu wa lawama sana.

tatizo hili inasemekana linatokana na wazazi kushindwa kuwalea watoto kuwa watu wanaojali hisia za wengine.

natafuta mke mwenye narcissistic personality disorder

 

[Me I and my self]

Ngoja mabinti wanaoshinda kwenye vioo waje.

 

[Red Giant]

 

[Red Giant]

 

[Luv]

Mh......

 

[Testar]

Mleta mada atakuwa ni Mkurya, maana ndio wenye utani na wahaya.

 

[Red Giant]

Mh......

sometimes tunaweza sema ndoa ngumu au kqzini kugumu kumbe tunaishi na wagonjwa. na kuna matatizo kibao yahusuyo personality. antisocial., avoidant, histrionic etc. cheki hiki kisa.

WILLIE It’s All About Me
Willie was an office assistant in a small attorney’s office.Now in his early 30s, Willie had an extremely poor job history.He never stayed employed at the same place for more than 2 years, and he spent considerable time working through temporary employment agencies.
Your first encounter,however, would make you believe that he was extremely competent and that he ran the office. If you entered the waiting room you were greeted by Willie, even though he wasn’t the receptionist. He would be extremely solicitous, asking how he could be of assistance, offer you coffee, and ask you to make yourself comfortable in “his” reception area. Willie liked to talk, and any conversation was quickly
redirected in a way that kept him the center of attention.

This type of ingratiating manner was welcomed at first but soon annoyed other staff. This was especially true when
he referred to the other workers in the offi ce as his staff,
even though he was not responsible for supervising any of
them.
The conversations with visitors and staff often consumed a great deal of his time and the time of other staff,
and this was becoming a problem.
He quickly became controlling in his job—a pattern revealed
in his other positions as well—eagerly taking charge
of duties assigned to others. Unfortunately, he did not complete
these tasks well, and this created a great deal of friction.

When confronted with any of these difficulties, Willie
would first blame others. Ultimately, however, it would become
clear that Willie’s self-centeredness and controlling
nature were at the root of many of the offi ce inefficiencies.
During a disciplinary meeting with all of the law fi rm’s
partners, an unusual step, Willie became explosively abusive
and blamed them for being out to get him. He insisted
that his performance was exceptional at all of his previous
positions—something contradicted by his previous
employers—and that they were at fault.

After calming down, he revealed a previous drinking problem, a history of
depression, and multiple family problems, all of which he
believed contributed to any difficulties he experienced.
The firm recommended he be seen at a university clinic
as a condition of his continued employment, where he was
diagnosed with major depression, as well as narcissistic
personality disorder.

Ultimately, his behavior—including lateness and incomplete work—resulted in his termination.
In a revealing turn of events, Willie reapplied for another
position at the same firm 2 years later. A mix-up in records
failed to reveal his previous termination, but he lasted only
3 days—showing up late to work on his second and third
days.
He was convinced he could be successful, yet he
could not change his behavior to conform to even the minimal
standards needed to be successful at work.